But there are rules for navigating matters of the heart and
a number of courtesies that can make the process more graceful and you more
gracious. A look at how to call it off, regardless of what stage you’re at in
coupledom.
Date number one
You went for coffee with your friend’s co-worker’s cousin’s
sister that everyone thought you would be just perfect for – but there wasn’t even a hint of a spark between the
two of you. If you know for certain you’re not interested, there’s no need to
commit to a second date just to be nice and get her hopes up. Conversely,
dropping off the face of the earth is a jerk move, especially if she shows
interest you can’t reciprocate. At this point, an email or text explaining you
had a lovely time but don’t see things progressing is acceptable.
The “getting-serious”
mark
The L-word has been dropped, you’ve met each other’s friends
and there have been several serious talks about the future. But for whatever
reason, it’s not working anymore. Ask Men points
out that “if you have been dating someone long enough to tell other people
that you are, in fact, dating, then you must sever ties face-to-face.” A
digital break-up is only acceptable if you’ve known each other all of three
hours.
Very much together
Without getting into an exact number, there’s a certain
point in serious relationships where lives become especially intertwined. When
things reach a settled point, it can be exceptionally difficult to split up a
long-term relationship. There’s a fine line between saying too much and saying
too little. As Match.com points
out, there needs to be reasons for the split. Laurie Puhn, author of Instant
Persuasion: How to Change Your Words to Change Your Life, told the dating
website that the reasons should focus on your general incompatibility without
being too critical or specific. So don’t tell her “she’s no longer attractive
to you, or you’re insanely attracted to her best friend. These kinds of
reflections shouldn’t be shared.”
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